The unrecognized cost of unhealed trauma
When we are traumatized, parts of ourselves get split off, relegated to the shadow.
We lose access to ourselves - our power, our sensitivity, our self-trust, our protective instincts, our ability to distinguish harmful people/situations from safer ones.
But some parts of us do the opposite: they get amplified, over-used, accentuated. These are our survival strategies.
For example:
We may become so withdrawn that we leave the world of relationships and exchange of gifts for too long;
Our fire and ire may arise so strongly that it may burn everything in sight, indiscriminately;
We may approach our work life with a perfectionism, a 'keep going no matter what,' not allowing ourselves to rest, dream, and vision a more loving way of life;
Our hunger to be saved may attach itself to fundamentalistic beliefs, bypassing strategies, that cripple our spiritual life.
In a way, we develop coping strategies – survival strategies – and MISTAKE these for who we are.
They may even post as our strengths, or as our values (something we see in white supremacist value systems).
Making matters more potent is this:
MANY OF THESE TRAUMATIC REACTIONS BEGAN IN A PRIOR GENERATION.
That means that these survival strategies may appear to us as "the way things are," "the right way to be."
This is why it's important to look at how earlier traumas have impacted our emotions and bodies AND how it has impacted the way we live and what we live for.
That’s what you’ll do in Trauma & Abuse: The Unshaming Way.
You’ll learn tools you can use for the rest of your life to…
Grow the love and compassion you need to care for all parts of yourself, especially the parts you previously wanted to “heal,” “fix,” or “remove”
Develop the consciousness to safely work through your trauma without re-traumatizing yourself and making it worse in the process
Integrate the clarity & understanding to truly listen to yourself and your body, no matter what comes up
Work with the somatic experience embedded in your story & trauma
Transform your relationship with yourself and others, breaking patterns & freeing you from the entanglements created by earlier abuse
Deeply connect with the meaning and medicine that has been alchemized within these greatest of wounds - abuse and trauma
