How to work on trauma without the pain of shame
On the dangers of retraumatization
Please be careful to not re-traumatize yourself when working on your trauma.
Why would that happen?
Let’s think of it this way.
I was abused by my father as a child, so there’s a part of me that’s been victimized. That part of me…
He’s hurt.
He’s frightened.
He’s trying to fight back against his father.
He’s looking for protection.
That child can’t work on the problem.
If I enter from that field, I can’t see myself.
There’s a scared one working on his own fear.
I need something outside of that traumatic scene to see me, because it’s too overwhelming for me.
I need something outside of me - a tree, another person, or another part of me that’s outside the scene that can hear, bear witness, and help me.
A witness to help me trust myself, process my experience, and find out who I am.
This is what you’ll do in Trauma & Abuse: The Unshaming Way - develop the skills to become a loving witness for yourself and others.
A loving witness believes you, acknowledges your pain, supports your responses, and doesn’t gaslight or deny your truth.
This is how you can go into your pain and suffering without retraumatizing yourself.
Once you become a loving witness, it will make it that much easier for you to…
Grow the love and compassion you need to care for all parts of yourself, especially the parts you previously wanted to “heal,” “fix,” or “remove”
Develop the consciousness to safely work through your trauma without retraumatizing yourself and making it worse in the process
Work with the somatic experience embedded in your story & trauma
Transform your relationship with yourself and others, breaking patterns & freeing you from the entanglements created by earlier abuse
Deeply connect with the meaning and medicine that has been alchemized within these greatest of wounds - abuse and trauma
In short – you allow your pain and suffering to transmute into medicine that brings your most authentic self into the world.
When you join Trauma & Abuse: The Unshaming Way, you’ll get access to a free bonus training - Unshaming Inner Criticism: Unchaining the Mind, Heart and Child Within (value $43).
So you can learn the skills to work through your trauma WITHOUT RETRAUMATIZING yourself, while also pushing back against inner criticism and discovering how to follow your heart’s path.
